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Your Child Was Born a Scientist. We Quietly Made Them Stop.
Watch a four-year-old for ten minutes. Why is the sky blue? Where does the rain go? What happens if I mix these two? They run
Why You and Your Teenager Keep Crashing!
Every 16th of June, we pay tribute to the courageous youth of 1976, a pivotal moment in history that this year marks its 50th anniversary.
The Storm Has Passed. So Why Are You Still Bracing?
In the earlier blog, we said the disorganised heart could learn a third thing beyond reaching and withdrawing. It could learn to stay, and in
Why You Reach for Love With One Hand and Brace With the Other
There is a particular loneliness that does not come from being alone. It arrives in company, often with the very person you most wanted near.
What If the Child Who Misbehaves Is Not Broken, Just Unfinished?
Part One In 2006, a neuroscientist at Stanford named Robert Sapolsky began writing a book that would take him twelve years to complete. The result,
If Gangs Are Winning, Are Schools Losing?
The previous blog ended with a bold statement: gangs are gaining power in South Africa because they fulfil needs that society often neglects. This leads
The Reason Why Gangsterism Wins
We keep asking the wrong question about South Africa. We ask why young people join gangs, why teenagers drink themselves stupid behind the school hall,
Self-Discovery Starts Beneath the Skin
Ask a Grade 8 learner who she is, and she will tell you what she wears, what she watches, and who she sits with at
Why Talking At Your Children Is Quietly Breaking Them
There is a sentence I have heard parents say to me, almost word-for-word, in different rooms and communities for the better part of my Life.
We Can’t Give What We Haven’t Built in Ourselves!
A week ago, a three-part series was offered. Mattering, Formation, Adult Responsibility: three blogs, one argument, one closing call to the grown-ups in young people’s
The Adult Is the Curriculum
Part 3 in a Rudder4Life Series on the Quiet Crises Shaping South Africa’s Young Where we have been Part 1 asked whether a child knows
Children Matter. Now, Who Are They Becoming?
Part 2 of a Rudder4Life Series on the Quiet Crises Shaping South Africa’s Young Where Part 1 left us In our last blog, we answered